Background History

Roo: He is my oldest and my heart. He was born 3 days before my 17th birthday. Needless to say, he has been there through almost all my milestones in life. He was there when I graduated high school, he went to college with me, was there when I graduated from college. He was the 1st non medical person to hold his brother when he was born. He has been my whole motivation in life. We will share another milestone in a few months as we will both be reaching a milestone days apart. He will be 13 and I will be 30.

He is a well rounded and cautious child. He has an obsession with video and computer games. I tell him all the time that he needs to get a job as a game tester. He has played all sports (soccer,football,baseball, basketball) but loves baseball. He is playing for his school this year. He was in the gifted program (all schools have different names for it: Alpha, Venture, etc.)from the time he was in 2nd grade until he transferred to his current school. He declined it so that he could take an art class.

Bug: He is my youngest and my spirit. 6 years after his brother, he entered my life. A few days after his 3rd birthday he had a brain tumor removed. So when people mention that they have to see a miracle to believe in. Then I tell them I wake up to one every morning. He had no prior side effects to lead us to find the tumor, we found it because he had hit his head at his Grandmother's. Thankfully, 3 years after his surgery, he still has no side effects. The only way one would know is feeling the horseshoe scar on the back of his head. He is the reason I believe anything is possible.

He is my "look at me" child. He is constantly demanding attention - good or bad. He is the one that likes to test the limits. Like his brother, he plays sports (baseball and soccer). He does well in school, when he is not interrupting the teacher so he can talk. I've always joke that I would be on speed dial with the school with him; unfortunately it has started to happen this year.


I remarried almost 2 years ago to a wonderful man name Doug. We met almost 10 years ago when Roo was 3. Then we met again a few years ago when we both were working for the same company. I'm not saying that it was love at first sight but there was something there that we couldn't just turn and walk away from. I tell him all the time that he is my soul mate.

Doug and I were worried about Roo, since he was the oldest, when we started dating. However, to our surprise, he took to Doug and didn't want him to leave. So in true gentleman fashion, Doug asked my father and the boys for permission to marry me. Thus began my journey of learning to share my boys and realizing that I was no longer the center of their world.

I used to tell the boys, "This is not a democracy, it's a dictatorship and I AM the supreme ruler." However, they have removed me from my title and given it to Doug. It was hard on me at first, not to be the one that they came to for some things. But I realize how blessed that I am that they love Doug and that he is there for them. And so our journey began....